Month: January 2019 (Page 2 of 2)

This Is Not the Same Church I Joined

In 1994, when I was president of the Board of Trustees; a joke was circulating: What is the only group of people who truly love change? Ponder that for a moment and I’ll get back to it. But first, in 1994, Marc was already presiding over two services each Sunday, his ministry was in full swing, attracting new members, and it was clear to most that we had outgrown our church facility. We needed to create a new vision for our community and decide to expand or move. But there was resistance. “We’re already too big.” Small is good!” “If we get bigger, we won’t be a community anymore. I already miss seeing people because of the two services.”

Even still the community voted to expand. It was a process – a very unscripted process – that proved not always fun, but in the end, we had more room, our staff had better offices (with heat even) and the community grew to fill the new space. Now we are there again. We have three services and still the 10 o’clock is full to overflowing. Change is needed again, and the same comments are resurfacing plus “This is not the same church I joined.” And still we have no roadmap or blueprint – and isn’t that just the way we UUs like to operate? Give us a challenge and we will find a path through.

These rankled folks are dead-right. This is certainly not the church I joined back in 1985. Back then, we were fewer in numbers and the single, 9 am, worship service was simple and intimate, even allowing for some discussion at the end of the sermon. Roy’s gentle command and thought-provoking words hooked me on my very first exploratory visit.

Years later when he announced his retirement, I “knew” the church was doomed. No one could replace Roy. Then, I distinctly remember Marc’s dulcet tenor singing Danny Boy to us and his words of introduction to his prospective congregation. I was filled with relief; we would be in good hands. Marc’s marvelous ministry soon caused the church to grow and outgrow our space just as Gretchen and Sean’s ministry is now welcoming a burgeoning congregation that has once again outgrown its space.

Growth is essential to sharing our UU faith. That is my heart-felt mission – to share our voice and our vision with our community. This world needs our message. What I have found here is so elemental, so integral to my well-being, who would I be to deny this to others? And if the church remains too crowded, the message becomes that there is no room for new people. If we continue to grow, will we become a mega-church? Maybe but not likely in my still substantial life-time. Mega churches count in the thousands and we are coping with the hundreds. And yet, a large church community does lose the closeness and familiarity of a smaller congregation. Which is why I believe it behooves each of us to do our part in ministry by finding our niche, connecting through small groups, volunteering, contributing, and showing up for all-church activities.

Truth be told, I didn’t love everything each of my ministers preached over the years. But when I felt a disconnect, I would look around at how connected, satisfied, and happy others were in this growing community. I had to remind myself on these occasions that Foothills and its various ministers were not here for me – they existed for us. It fell to me to create my connection to this UU community, find my own satisfaction and always, always stay committed to my UU faith. Today, Gretchen, Sean and Kristen call us to service every Sunday, but it remains our privilege and responsibility to write our own role into this community.

This is certainly not the endearingly nicknamed “Footloose Vegetarian Church” that I joined in the mid-80s. But I am also not the same new congregant I was back then. The ministries of Roy, Fred (interim), Marc, Howell (interim), Gretchen, Sean, and now Kristen have seen to that. Early on in his ministry I asked Marc if he would help members further their own personal growth paths. He explained why he didn’t think that was his job. He was right. But he undersold himself. A minister impacts their congregants in too many ways not to earn credit for the growth of both the congregation and the individual members.

Every day I am grateful for this growing congregation, our ever rising UU voice in the Fort Collins community and our activism for our faith. I’m blessed by the leadership roles I am encouraged to play in this process by our bold ministerial team and our dynamic staff. Foothills is not the same church I joined in the 80s, and I am not that same congregant either. I am thankful for both.

Jane Everham

P.S. Oh, and who is the only group of folks who love change? (scroll down…)

 

 

 

 

Wet babies.

Featured Image: Old Town Street Fair on Walnut Street circa 1983 (Fort Collins Historical Collection)

Foothills Share the Plate: Interfaith Alliance of Colorado

Mission Statement:

The Interfaith Alliance of Colorado is the proactive voice for promoting justice, religious liberty, and interfaith understanding, driving social change and equality through education and dialogue. The goal of the Interfaith Alliance is to demonstrate compassion, cooperation, and partnership to benefit the common good.

“At the Interfaith Alliance of Colorado, we work to focus our advocacy efforts through specific initiatives grounded in our shared values. Project decisions are based on alignment with our shared values of human rights and equality, religious liberty, and moral government. We then evaluate the social and political landscape in Colorado to determine where there are needs and where there are gaps in faith advocacy efforts. Our current initiatives focus on the issues of religious liberty (non-discrimination), racial justice, and economic justice.”

Sounds familiar doesn’t it. We encounter these words – justice, religious liberty, and compassion – with great frequency from our pulpit, in our weekly newsletter, and in our amazing word-cloud branding poster in the foyer. That is why Foothills Unitarian Church recently donated $3148.21 to the Interfaith Alliance of Colorado as our November Share the Plate. And you, the Foothills congregants, made it happen with your weekly generosity.  Foothills, joined with other committed faiths, is part of a grand, religious caravan traveling that “moral arc of the Universe that bends toward justice.” This month as we strengthen our hope muscle, know that we flex it every Sunday with our generous Share the Plate giving – a simple but meaningful spiritual practice.

By Jane Everham

Being Better: Skills To Be There When It Matters Most

At Foothills we talk about the “tangled blessing of life.” How joy, celebration, growth and connection are as a part of life as pain, grief, sadness, disconnection and challenge. Living in the middle of this tangled blessing is not easy and cannot be done by ourselves alone. We need other people — not to fix us or our problems but to care about us, to truly listen, to witness to depths of our souls, to remind us we are not alone — even if we feel it.

Being Better is a roughly monthly series of workshops focused on developing the skills to be there for those we care about when it matters most. Each month from January to May, you are invited to deepen and practice your relational skills with the goal of being better friends, partners, parents, and citizens.

Being Better Schedule:

Listening Like It Actually Matters | Jan 24 from 9am to noon

We listen all the time but how deep do we go? Listening is one of our most powerful tools to use at work, at home, and with those we love, yet we seldom consider how to get better at it. This three-hour workshop explores the fundamentals of listening and offering care to another person through accompaniment.

Mental Health First Aid | February 21 from 8am to 5pm

Mental Health First Aid gives you the skills to assess and assist someone experiencing an emergency related to mental health or substance use. Learn the risk factors and warning signs, as well as strategies for supporting someone in crisis and non-crisis situations.

Yet-to-be-finalized offerings:

  • Forgiveness for Real: Do I have to? How?
  • Angry Guys: Emotions, Feelings and Being a ‘Man’
  • Crossing the Cultural Divide: Best Practices for Relationships Across Difference

 

Faith Family Hospitality Celebrates Seven Years

by Sue Ferguson, FFH Lead Coordinator

Seven years ago this month, Foothills joined more than 30 local faith communities in an effort to house families experiencing homelessness in Fort Collins. Seven years of housing four families a night, 365 days a year, supporting close to 80% in their transition to permanent housing. Not a bad track record. Join us on Sunday, January 20th as we take a moment to pause and to celebrate this work together.

FACT: More than half of homeless households include children. Poudre School District lists over 1,034 students as homeless. 

By offering temporary housing for families in particular, Faith Family Hospitality (FFH) serves a need in our community – and it takes many volunteers to make it happen. During these seven years over 250 folks have served as volunteers at Foothills – some for 1 or 2 times but many for over 25 times and some for up to 50 times! We are so grateful.

During each of those hosting weeks it takes about 40 volunteers and 2 dedicated coordinators to provide food and hospitality. The jobs are so simple – setting up beds and preparing guest rooms, cooking and serving a meal, being an evening host, spending the night as an overnight volunteer or doing the laundry.  Taken together these simple actions ensure that a family doesn’t have to sleep in their car or under a bridge and gets the help it needs to find permanent housing.

Our work at Foothills is supported by the dedicate FFH staff. They operate a family day center 6 days at week and provide the in-depth case management that helps families move from homelessness to housing self sufficiency.  Soon FFH will open Sherwood House which will provide bridge housing to families needing a little more help after they finish the overnight rotation.

Our coordinators put countless hours into preparing for each hosting week. They recruit all the volunteers, make sure doors are unlocked each night, purchase milk, bread and fresh fruit as needed and handle any unexpected events. Special thanks goes to current coordinators Danue Laborde, Marla Nelson, Dannielle North and Julie Pass. Karen Johnese and Kay Williams have also served as coordinators.

Volunteers like Rich Roberts who always makes his truck available to get the FFH trailer to the next church, Jody and Nate Donovan who are super experienced at setting up and taking down, and Mary Pat Aukema who did all the laundry for 3 years, have been practically indispensable and are so appreciated.

There is a loyal crew of overnight hosts (the hardest job to recruit for) who have to be mentioned – Libby James, Anne Haro Sipes, Diana Royce, Glen Pearson, Jim Smith, Carol & Jerry Okeson and Irma Crump. They sleep at the church and make sure breakfast is served in the morning!

There are just some folks who almost always sign up like Jennifer & John Dunkle, Susie Gordon, Trudy Herman, Cindy Mahoney, Lynn Young, Jane Everham, Lauren Prause, & Lois and Harry Goldman that deserve special mention. 

Naming names always has a risk because so many people help each time. But each of these folks has volunteered a minimum of 15 times and most may more. A heart felt THANK YOU goes to each of them and every person who has volunteered for FFH these past 7 years we have made a difference.  

Alongside our partner, Congregation Har Shalom, Foothills is next hosting families at the end of the month beginning Sunday night, January 20th. If you are interested in supporting this work during our next hosting – check out the variety of easy jobs that need to be filled here. If you are new please note it in the “notes” section of the Signup Genius and the coordinators will make sure you get some orientation and special help. Join us – it’s easy and most of us would say we get so much more than we give.

In Your Words, Continued…

Our fifth weekly sharing of highlights of courageous love as experienced at Foothills and wishes for our congregation in the future.

These are some of the highlights and wishes that appeared with significant frequency in the data we collected from 22 visioning workshops with more than 350 participants during the month of October.

The Board of Trustees will be sharing the final guiding values and bold vision statements at the Foothills town hall meeting at 1 p.m. Sunday, January 27th, and we hope you will join us there. These values and vision statements, along with the church’s existing mission statement, will guide how the Board and the Ministry manifest our collective vision for Foothills over the next 5 to 7 years.

Stories of courageous love as we experienced it at Foothills:

  • Hearing Foothills member and CSU climate scientist Scott Denning speak about dealing with the hard truths of climate change.
  • The public statement of the “we love our ___ neighbors” signs placed on Drake Rd, pronouncing our compassion and connection. Feeling moved to be heard and place my own signs at home.
  • Participating in a Freedom to Marry Day Rally with Foothills’ high school students and other church members to courageously support gay marriage.

Our wishes for the current and future Foothills congregation:

  • That Foothills be a community that inspires everyone who hears about it, regardless of demographic affiliation.
  • That we create community space in our new building that becomes a social action hub for the wider Fort Collins community. That we become the resource for Northern Colorado, with our OWL sexuality education, our community action, and our social and environmental justice work.
  • That we depolarize our community and country; we find common ground in conversations with people who hold different beliefs; we get rid of the echo chamber and create more shared experiences.

– Sue Sullivan, Secretary, Board of Trustees

 

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