Month: February 2019 (Page 1 of 2)

True and False (Worship Series)

Who would’ve ever thought that there’d come a time when religious liberals would be looking to set a firmer boundary around truth?

Whether on social media or over coffee with friends – we have to admit, many of us can get obsessed with asserting exactly where the lines are between what is true, and what is not.  

Our religious ancestors would be shocked!

But of course, they would also be shocked at the state of truth today, where truth has gone….open source.  Truth is a democracy. It can come from anywhere, anyone – and everywhere, and everyone

In popular culture this looks like Youtube, Wikipedia, millions of blogs, and this whole idea of “Fake News” and “Alternative Facts”…..and in religion it looks like self-directed spiritual retreats, mash-ups of practices from Buddhism, Hinduism, and Christianity, and a whole generation of the spiritual but not religious.

It’s an exhilerating time to be alive, in so many ways. And just as often, it can be incredibly overwhelming, not to mention sometimes terrifying, and even, dangerous.  Because the lines we draw between true and false have real and human consequences, for all of us, and for our earth. 

This Sunday we’re kicking off a new series, True and False, where we will be exploring these lines – and their consequences…. Where we find truth today….Who and what we trust….Why it matters….How culture, and power and bias factor in….And learning to hold truth with an open hand, accepting that we could be wrong – about everything

Most of all our series will be paying close attention to the “and” between True and False. Because it’s in the and where faith lies.  

In the complexity, and the contradictions.  
In the shifting sands and the expanding universe.
In the questions of who gets to decide, and for whom.  
In the still, small voice that rises up from within that sparks an entirely new understanding.
The still small voice that sparks a revolution, if we let it. 
If we let ourselves keep being surprised by life, and all that is being born, now.  


We always choose one song for each of our worship series that we sing or perform in every Sunday in the series.  It’s usually something you’ll find yourself singing later in the day, without even realizing it.  Because music connects in the deepest parts of our brains, the idea is that we’ll connect more fully with theme, and bring it into our everyday lives. 

For this series, check out this song from Paul Thorn, “You Might Be Wrong.” It’s a fun and perfect song for a series exploring the complex ways of truth.  Can’t wait to sing it with all of you throughout this series!!


Go Deeper – Resources for further reflection on the theme
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. – Rumi 

1.  We’ll be looking at the deep flaw in our longstanding faith in human rationality….to delve into this fascinating (and slightly disturbing) reality, check out this podcast on why we contradict ourselves and confound each other.  

2.  As the subject line of this email suggests, we’ve been pondering shared social understandings of truth, and how these evolve.  For example, What is meat and who gets to decide? 

3.  We’ve also been thinking about those moments when a bigger truth breaks.  For many, the fall of 2016 was one of those moments when an old understanding of what is true about our country came apart.  If you’re looking for ways to understand our country and our history, check out Ronald Takaki’s A Different Mirror (you can get it on kindle for under $6).  

4.  We’ll also be exploring our first source, that is, our direct experience, in a service on mysticism. If you’d like a deep dive into the main source for that service, check out The Silent Cry – Mysticism and Resistance by Dorothee Soelle.  

5.  Finally, be sure to check out the TED Talk You Could Be Wrong from Kathryn Schulz.  

Six Months So Far

by Kristen Psaki, Ministerial Resident

One of my favorite ways to describe a minister is as a storyteller. Humans are a storytelling animal, after all. We think and learn and share and grow in and through stories. The story I shared with loved ones a few weeks after joining the ministry team last August was — I jumped into a very fast-moving river.

“You love to swim,” a friend said in response. 
It’s true, I do — especially in rivers. 

And soon there were more stories. Stories about love and heartbreak, resilience and fear, courage and connection and — community. Your stories. Stories about raising your now grown children in this church, stories about your experiences of loss in life and the celebrations you hold most dear. Stories about what tugs at your heart and the day-to-day struggle to raise a family, invest in your partner/spouse, pay attention to the world around us — and still have any space to breathe, mindfully. Stories about your aging parent in the hospital and your child’s journey to find a place where he/she/they belong(s) and feel(s) seen in a world of rising and widespread loneliness. 

Stories about relationships you’ve made at Foothills and the way they’ve changed you — or saved you even. And stories about your choice to commit to those relationships and your own spiritual deepening in new ways. Many cups of coffee shared. Check-ins about your passion for justice, interest in God, love of the earth and journey of loving yourself.

There were jokes, too. And lots of laughter. Tears and singing and — community. 

I have served as one of your ministers since August — many of you kindly and curiously asking me throughout these six months — “but what is a ‘Ministerial Resident’”? Credentialed as a minister by the Unitarian Universalist Association, but not yet ordained, I bring stories of hospital chaplaincy, justice work — and a love of church.  Because church is one of the places where we get to share our stories — honestly, hopefully — and to make new ones, together. 

What I’ve noticed so far is that communities that gather near a river are drawn to life and abundance, hope and possibility, reconnection and regeneration. We are no strangers to the cycles of life, often longing for life but recognizing the necessity of death — and hoping to share about it all with someone. 

Perhaps the best part is the stretch of the river just ahead but a little bit out of sight — the yet to be known stories. It’s so good to be in this river with you — with new life (and sure, the occasional white water) unfolding in front of us.  

The Nominating Committee at Foothills

By Linda Kothera

I serve on the Nominating Committee (Nom Com, for short) at Foothills and have been asked to write a post about our work. We’ve made some changes over the last couple of years and are starting to see the fruits of our labor.  

First, a bit about what the Nom Com is and what it does. The Nom Com is made up of three elected church members and a Board liaison. Members serve for staggered three-year terms and are tasked with developing a slate of candidates for the elected positions at Foothills. We meet about once per month starting in October, and present the slate at the congregational meeting in the spring.

We first ascertain the number of openings we will be tasked with filling. Currently, and as per our Bylaws and Governance policies, we identify candidates for openings on the Board of Trustees, Endowment Committee and the Nom Com itself. After the number of openings is known, we work with those entities to determine the qualities and qualifications candidates for those positions should have.

The Leadership Development Team (LDT) takes this information and works with church members who have expressed an interest in serving in a leadership position. Who are these members? Some folks self-identify to Rev. Gretchen, or Rev. Sean. Other folks are approached by church members or the LDT to see if they would consider serving, or learning more about what is involved in serving. With so many new members, having a structure such as the LDT in place helps the church identify the greatest number of people who would like to serve. If you are interested in serving Foothills in an elected position, please contact Rev. Gretchen by March 15.

To see the upcoming vacancies for elected positions, or other ways to serve in the church, check out the button on the bottom of this page. (Or click here to get there directly.)

The LDT identifies qualified candidates and passes their names to the Nom Com, which then has the task of contacting the candidates and getting a commitment to serve. The Nom Com will present its slate of candidates for this year’s open positions at the congregational meeting on June 2nd. We look forward to presenting to you a group of qualified and eager members committed to serving the mission of Foothills.

Casting Our Vision and Claiming Our Power

Twenty-three workshops with 350 participants, ranging in age from 10 to 90 = 197 shared values distilled from your stories of experiencing the sacred + 320 stories of courageous love as we experienced it at Foothills + 570 concrete wishes for the future of this congregation.

This was the at-times mind-blowing math problem that you set us with your record-breaking participation in our fall vision casting work, as we listened to your stories of what being in beloved community as Foothills Unitarian Church has meant to you and how you hope we will grow in the years ahead.

We asked you to have these conversations with us so that we could finish the work of growing into the church we are meant to be – one of the largest UU congregations in the nation, clear on our bold mission, guided by our unique shared values, and sharply focused on making a profound difference in the lives of our members and the larger community.

Sunday Jan. 27 at our Congregational Town Hall, we introduced the four guiding values and seven bold vision statements that we distilled and discerned from all of that data (which you can review here.)

For those who were not able to attend, here is an overview of that presentation and what happens next with this vision.

Guiding Values

These core values are meant to evoke the unique personality of this congregation and the timeless qualities that we want to embody in all that we do. Knowing clearly who we are and where we want to go will make us vastly more effective in all that we want to do for ourselves, each other, and the larger world.

Joyful resilience – By this we wanted to capture both the good humor and wit that has long characterized Foothills, but also that we are able to move through the inevitable difficult experiences that life delivers us with humor and grace, staying connected in healthy relationship with each other.

Collective courage – Our ability to do brave things together and inspire each other to individual acts of moral courage came through so often in the stories you shared about Foothills. Time and again, you said that our collective courage moved you to engage more deeply in this community.

Deepening belonging – “Connection,” “community,” “share,” and “family” are all prominent in our values cloud. As part of our discernment, we sorted data into categories of within ourselves, among the congregation, and beyond into the larger world. More than half of the values words fell into the “among” category and spoke to the deep desire to be in beloved community with each other. We also felt that this spoke to the inner work of knowing and believing in our own worth and dignity that was often evoked in the “within” category.

Transcendent wonder – This was the trickiest of the four to hammer out. We saw how prominent “awe” and “wonder” were in the values word cloud. But we also knew from the original stories being shared that it reflected more than just a moment of being wowed. There was a longing for a connection to something greater than ourselves that that showed up in our stories: a powerful experience in the natural world that caused us to drop our ordinary thoughts and become fully present in a transformative way; being awestruck by an outpouring of congregational support in the face of deep loss; feeling awed by what a committed faith community could accomplish in the world.

With these four values, we feel we have captured the aspects of what makes Foothills unique as a congregation that are most important to us at this point in our congregational life.

Our Bold Vision

Once we had discerned our core values, our final job was to craft vision statements that showed how we planned to live into our bold mission statement (adopted in Oct. 2016) in the coming years.

We worked to craft statements that were the least we needed to say about the most important dreams and goals of the congregation. They needed to set our course while giving the ministry and the congregation the flexibility and creativity to find the best ways to achieve these goals.

We feel these seven vision statements describe the concrete, measurable differences we wanted to make, and for whom, in the next 5 to 7 years. These are meant to be big and aspirational, maybe a bit scary feeling even, not a portrait of what we’ve already accomplished. (Which is also very big and might once have felt scary to us too!)

We, the members of Foothills Unitarian Church, commit to create and sustain a healthy, vibrant religious community where:

1) Foothills is at the center of the lives of its people, providing abundant opportunities for relationships across differences that provide joy, care, and belonging for all.

There was so much yearning for authentic, joy-filled relationships, for strengthening inter-generational connections, and of wanting a deep sense of belonging. When we asked ourselves what impact that would have, we realized that Foothills would offer so much meaning and connection that it would indeed become central to the lives of its members and friends.

2) We are actively engaged in a process of lifelong spiritual deepening that allows us to live lives of meaning and purpose in a world that needs our Unitarian Universalism.

This statement incorporates both the frequently expressed longing for more opportunities for deep spiritual and personal growth, and the desire for the messages of Unitarian Universalism to be more widely known in this time of increasing divisions and looming environmental crises.

3) We understand that being a part of Foothills requires us to give abundantly of our time, and this deepening involvement helps us to identify and grow our individual gifts.

This arose out of the simple realization that to have the great impacts we dream of as a congregation, we need the efforts of many committed volunteers. It also speaks to a collective desire to be recognized for our unique gifts, and for help in discerning those we have yet to find in ourselves. In committing to our congregation in this deep way, we can also grow ourselves in profound ways.

4) We each give generously and gratefully of our financial resources in ways that foster a deep ownership of the impactful work we support.

What began as “we generously support our church financially” became so much more meaningful when we considered how giving generously would impact us as individuals. We realized that we would feel more abundance in our individual lives, and we’d feel a deep pride of ownership of all of the good work that Foothills does.

5) We recognize and dismantle prejudice and oppression in all their forms including within ourselves, allowing us to be more effective and trusted partners to marginalized communities in Northern Colorado and beyond.

So very many of our wishes related to eliminating homelessness and hunger, expanding mental health services, becoming the recognized leader in social justice work in Northern Colorado, and expanding our partnerships with marginalized communities and other faith traditions. In setting this as a visionary goal, however we realized that we already *are* a recognized leader with our expanded ministries and social justice outreach in recent years. That led us to a bolder goal of learning how to be be wise, empowering, respectful partners in this work and learning to see our own biases and privilege clearly. This also brought in frequently mentioned wishes that we bridge differences, reduce polarization, and get better at talking and listening to people with different viewpoints and different cultures.

6) Foothills is the leader in Northern Colorado in developing sustainable, innovative, intersectional approaches to caring for our earth and its people to ensure a greater flourishing of all life.

…Modeling and supporting sustainable practices, climate change activism, and other environmental leadership roles were also prominent in the data. All of these environmental problems are interconnected with social issues that we also want to help solve. We felt that this congregation and its ministers were up to the challenge of pursuing innovative solutions that recognize the complexities inherent in our natural, cultural, and social systems.

7) We do the work to make Unitarian Universalism accessible to all in Northern Colorado.

Throughout the process of developing these vision statements, the need for more space for our congregation has never been far from our minds, and to accomplish these 7 goals we will need a larger building with more space. Because these vision statements guide us for five to seven years, and because we hope to complete our building expansion in the next two to three years, we wanted a vision statement that would incorporate the new building but be more expansive. A number of people envisioned Foothills expanding its reach beyond these walls, leveraging technology to grow our congregation online and in other innovative ways. We heard the yearning for a spacious new building, but also the desire to better serve communities across Northern Colorado, and to spread the message of Unitarian Universalism and the impact of Foothills as widely as possible to all who could benefit from it.

What Happens Next

Casting a vision is just the first step. Over the next 9 months, we will be in dialogue with the ministers and the congregation about these vision statements.

You, the congregation, through your involvement in the various committees, teams, and ministries that do the work of this church, will discuss what excites you and what challenges you about each of these statements, and what’s the work we would need to do to make this real.

You’ll tell us how you think progress could be measured in achieving each of them, so that we can turn to another part of our work as a future-oriented board — monitoring the progress we are making in living into our mission and vision.

There will be a congregational survey to gather a baseline assessment of where we think we are on each of these goals.

In the fall, the board and the ministry will return to the congregation with a formal report that finalizes our interpretation of these vision statements and how we will monitor progress in each of them. At this point, we should have a clear 1-2 year action plan and monitoring strategies.

Each year thereafter, the ministries and the staff team will provide a new interpretation of the vision statements and a monitoring proposal for the year ahead.

Finishing up this governance overhaul may sound boring compared to the many exciting things we do here at Foothills, but we believe it will have truly profound impacts on our congregation and the larger world.

“If someone had told me twenty years ago that the most exciting, most inspiring aspect of my ministry had to do with governance, I would have laughed in their faces. But the truth of the matter is that when we are able to align our decision-making, align the way in which we operate with our covenantal theology, leadership is liberated. Lay leadership is strengthened, ministerial leadership is liberated, and congregations can move forward in new and transforming ways.”UU minister and consultant Rev. Rob Eller-Isaacs.

In faith and love,
Sue Sullivan
Board Secretary

The Disciplined Life

by Rev. Sean

Last evening I sat down on a cushion, lit a candle, and did something. Contemplation seems too lofty a word, it could have been prayer, maybe meditation. Mostly I just watched the flame dance, felt my breath, and deepened into the silence. I actually threw my phone across the room (onto the bed), to get away from the notifications, disruptions and if I am totally honest the seduction of its distractions.

Spiritual Discipline, is just that, a discipline. I love discipline, mostly the type of discipline that other people exercise that make my life easier. Being on time. Taking time for self-care. I’m not always a fan of the disciplines that ask ME to be disciplined. To push against my natural inclinations — the stubborn, sometimes lazy, sometimes too skeptical to be curious ones– to do what I know will help me be better in the long run, even if that means sacrificing something pleasurable in the short term.

Discipline changes us. Like drops of water, small and seemingly insignificant, rolling through a plain. With enough time, carve the deepest of valleys. Transforming the base realities of our lives in unrecognizable ways.

It’s the discipline of showing up to worship even if you don’t feel like it. The discipline of showing up for that friend when the relationship has frayed. The discipline of calling someone in, rather than casting them out. The disciplines that take intense effort to start, and even more to maintain, but once we built the habit become second nature. The discipline of being a part of the Church of Humanity.

Discipline gets a bad rap. We think of harsh parenting styles, or the work of the state. We actually took the word all together out of our UU principles which used to read “a free and disciplined search for truth and meaning”. We swapped in responsible in the 80s. But discipline is doesn’t have to be authoritarian. For at its heart it is the cultivation of capacity, through practices within, among and beyond ourselves, that we engage in intentionally, regularity, and with depth. Capacities to live life more fully, more vividly, more relationally.

When I stood up I felt a shift. It was subtle and faded fast. This is no enlightenment story but you probably already knew that. But it was there. I felt a little more here, a little more grounded, a little more alive to myself and the world. As I write this article — I’m making a commitment to myself to sit down on the cushion tonight. Not because there is anything sacred about candles and silence — other the the holiness they evoke within me. But because I know I will be better because I did it. Even if I would much rather finish watching the new season of Grace and Frankie.

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